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Love is…..

Love is participation, not possession.  

It actively reflects our flaws through the lens of acceptance, positively motivating us toward self-improvement and personal growth.  

Love is liberating, not containing.

It allows us time and space to expand to our fullest potential as individuals.  Meanwhile, it supports us when our efforts seem to have failed, and encourages us to move forward despite obstacles in our path.  After all, we are not facing them alone, anymore.

Love understands that it cannot exist without contrast.  For then, it could never be cherished.  

Love is the core of your inner most being comfortably fitting the core of someone else’s, and simply appreciating that fact.  
For this reason, love does not expect.   
Rather, love celebrates all that is.

There is no lack, no void, nothing to prove or win.  Love is not calculating, manipulative, or able to play games.  

Love is simple. 

Love just is…

Why I’m single…..for now.

I never really thought about why I was single until one day, someone asked me, and I was stuck.  I didn’t really have a simple answer.  I didn’t even really know where to start.  I just sat there, dumbfounded.  I thought to myself, “I guess I need to think about how to articulate this in case I’m asked again.”

I continued living my life as I normally do and tried to feel where a relationship would fit and what I would want in a partner and why.  It wasn’t easy.  I’m very busy and I’m also very content.  I meditated and asked the question, “why am I single?”.

After a few days of listening for the answer, this is what I realized:

​I get a lot of 5D (spiritual) assignments that require me to use my spiritual gifts to assist people, some I know and most are strangers.  It is my priority to stay in spiritual alignment regardless of who is in my life and in what capacity they are in it.  Sometimes, 3D relationships and all the pettiness that goes into dating is just a big distraction.  I believe the person for me will gravitate towards me and enhance my vibe rather than cause interference with my energetic frequency.  Most men don’t even know what I’m talking about, so they could never really support me on this journey.  Besides that, being whole and knowing that I have all I need inside of me, changes my perspective of relationships.  I have already been married and divorced.  I have two children.  I don’t feel like I’m lacking or need to pursue anything. This physical life is temporary anyway.  “The One” is a relative illusion based on where we are at any given point in our lives. For me, there are more important things to focus on…..like fulfilling my divine purpose in life and raising the vibration of this planet.  

If I ever have a King, he will be on the same mission that I am on, or at least, he will understand that every now and then I have to put on my cape and channel someone’s ancestor or transitioned loved one.  I may see him unexpectedly through my third eye and have to call him out of nowhere to deliver a message from the Divine.  He may have a thought that I hear or feel from miles away and I am instructed to help keep him on course with his Divine purpose.   This is my life.  This is what I do, with or without him in it.  He has to be willing to go deep within himself and maintain his own connection and alignment to Source, while giving me the trust, respect, and freedom to fulfill my 5D to-do list.  Obviously, I would love to support him with his own life mission and journey to ascension.  It would give me no greater pleasure than to be the Queen to my King and give him the trust, respect, and freedom to fulfill his own destiny while he does the same for me.

If he is moving through life aligned with his higher self, and I am too, not only could we manifest some amazing stuff together, it would be the most exhilarating, soul quenching relationship ever!

If it’s supposed to happen, it will.  In the meantime, I am in the avatar of my Higher Self.  Chilling…….until further notice.

​Eye Candy should be sweet…. Right?

Ever since I changed my perspective and chose to focus on what I want instead of what I don’t want, the only thing that shows up is what I want.  💯

Now, I repel BS instead of attracting it.  
I encourage you to STOP complaining about who isn’t doing what, who is messing up, and who isn’t measuring up to your standards. 
JUST. STOP. NOW.
Instead, show some love and appreciation for the people that you’re not interested in, but are still good men/women.  They may not be perfect or meet all the requirements on your wish list, but the fact that you know them shows that good people still exist and you aren’t completely isolated on BS Island.
Whining, complaining, fussing, and nagging is not appealing or attractive….to most people.
Just think about it:
You walk into a club dressed your best, feeling good and sexy.  The vibe is right and the music is on point.  You have a friend as your side kick.  Everything is right.  You enter slowly and take it all in….then you notice Eye Candy at 2:00.  You glance, then watch, and try not to stare.  You work your way over and just as you’re about to approach, you overhear Eye Candy’s conversation with friends. Although it’s rude, ear hustling gives you pertinent information; Eye Candy is a grumpy Gus with a funky attitude!
Now the question is, do you really want to devote energy into trying to turn Eye Candy’s frown upside down, or would you rather keep browsing and  focus your attention on someone with a more pleasant demeanor?
Everyone wants to be Eye Candy, but every piece of Eye Candy doesn’t have to be a grumpy​ Gus.
Show your sweet side and you’ll attract everything sweet!  ❤🍯🐝🌟💫👑

Chakra Love

You say I’m beautiful, but how can you see me with only two eyes open?

You say you love me, but how can you know that when your heart space needs healing?

You say you want my body, but your sacral is unbalanced so…..

I don’t take it personal.

You say you want deep dialogue, but your overactive solar plexus​ is feeding ego-

Through your throat, causing you to emit arrogance and closed​ mindedness that I don’t want to entertain.

You think the only crown you have is the figurative hat you wear as a good man,

Which is why you don’t even really Know who I Am.

I want a love that is so deep it penetrates the depths of my soul.

I can feel him from the inside out.

He has me reaching, stretching,

Doing mental yoga trying to gain his wisdom.

He doesn’t just teach me facts, he teaches​ me much more than that.

Silent lessons too intense for words-

He helps me heal and never causes me to hurt.

Confident in himself and fully aware of his vibration,

He checks his energy at the door, so I won’t have to sage him.

He knows exactly what he needs, and he always has it on him.

He doesn’t just wear crystals and beads-

He knows how to use them.

Being balanced on our own helps us be balanced when we’re together.

The only way to go is up, as long as we follow our own procedures.

He knows my hands are like defibrillators, bringing life to all that I touch.

So he invites me to heal his soul, 

He is my Chakra Love.

You’re talking, but are you listening?

PSA: If you’re still debating historical facts, current events, and condemning others for not being as angry as you are, you’re not really “conscious”, you’re just “waking up”.  
To be conscious means to apply divine wisdom that can only be gained through time spent listening to the Divine.  Here, you will see beyond the barriers of race and religion. You will begin to see love and emit light. 

It’s not enough to simply know of Orishas, Shamans, Ancestors, Ascended Masters, and Spirit Guides, etc.  

We need to listen to them.

Our ancestors give us knowledge so we can spread truth and light, not so we can judge others that don’t yet know.  However, we can’t access true knowledge if we only talk and refuse to listen….

So I urge you, don’t just pass along factual information, spread LIGHT!🌟

​Growth vs. Manifestation.

When we encounter contrast, discord, or disappointment, we know right away what we don’t want to experience, and sometimes, in that instance, we also know what we do want instead. But how do we get from point A to B?  How do we go from  having unhealthy relationships to manifesting the love we need, want, and deserve?

First, we recognize what we don’t want. But if we keep thinking about it, we will only attract more of it.

Next, we identify what we do want.  But we must align ourselves energetically with what we desire, and focus only on the feeling of having it if we truly want to receive it. Then, that will be all we can attract.

Finally, we must do the internal work to be mentally and emotionally able to receive what we want.  If it is something we’ve never had or seen before, it may be difficult to do this. The majority of people stop short of completing this step.  Although what they say they want has begun to appear, they are too caught up in the snares and residue from the past to be open to receiving it.  As a result, they sabatoge their own success.

Some people remain stuck on the first step and get frustrated with all of the negative encounters they have, yet they can’t understand how they are responsible for attracting what they continue to experience.  

Many get stuck on the second step because they don’t know how to align themselves and become a vibrational match with what they want.

Most never realize that they’re hindering their own progress and they are not actually ready or capable of receiving what they say they want to attract.  

Growth is a process.   It’s about learning the lessons of our life experiences and humbling ourselves enough to admit our mistakes, take ownership of our shortcomings, and accept our past for who it has shaped us to become.

Manifestation requires growth and evolution.  It’s more than exerting massive effort, concentration, and repeatedly trying to force an ideal situation to unfold. 

In order to manifest on a higher level, we must first grow to a higher level of consciousness.

Are you ready to receive what you want?

The gray area.

Traditionally, we think of the following stages as it relates to dating:

1.  Courting

2. Dating

3. Going steady

4. Engaged

5. Married
In current times, we often consider  the stages of dating to be:

1. Kickin it

2. In a relationship

3. Engaged

4. Married

However, there is an entire gamut of categories that bridge the gap between “kickin it” and “in a relationship”. Some people are so driven by achieving a title of exclusivity with their person of interest,  that the gray area between “kickin it” and “being in a relationship”, is arduous and daunting to say the least.

 For those of you who often find yourself bewildered and perplexed by this elusive gray area, I have devised a range of categories to help you have peace and clarity when thinking of your situationship:

1.  Boothangishkinda – someone who is very new, yet has you intrigued with attraction and interest. It is way too early to determine whether or not they are everything they portray themselves to be. You have your guard up, but you are very hopeful.

2.  Boothangish –  someone who has been around for a little while that you are interested in, but not quite sure they are everything you would want in a relationship. You are still getting to know them and there may be something about them that gives you some reservation. You talk to them often, but not daily.

3.  Boothang – this person makes you smile and you really like him/her. You talk to them frequently and hang out with them regularly. However, you are not committed and that is very clear. You feel drawn to them, but there are some unspoken boundaries that you know you cannot cross.   For the most part, you think this person could be a very good partner in the future, and you hope that things keep going well. However, you are still getting to know him/ her so you are not one hundred percent convinced that you want to commit yet, or that he/she wants to commit to you.

Boo –   You love you some him/her! You want to see this person as much as you can.  Your face lights up and you feel butterflies whenever you’re near each other. You are eager for the day that you will be able to say he/she is your significant other.   You know that the next step is exclusivity and you hope everything stays intact so you can make it to that point.

Hopefully, you will be able to use this as a guide to understand the status of any gray area situationship you may be involved in now or in the future and therefore, act accordingly.

There’s nothing worse than thinking you’re exclusive and finding out that you are simply a boothangishkinda.

Let’s keep it in perspective, and call it what it is, not what we wish it could be


. Shall we?