The gray area.

Traditionally, we think of the following stages as it relates to dating:

1.  Courting

2. Dating

3. Going steady

4. Engaged

5. Married
In current times, we often consider  the stages of dating to be:

1. Kickin it

2. In a relationship

3. Engaged

4. Married

However, there is an entire gamut of categories that bridge the gap between “kickin it” and “in a relationship”. Some people are so driven by achieving a title of exclusivity with their person of interest,  that the gray area between “kickin it” and “being in a relationship”, is arduous and daunting to say the least.

 For those of you who often find yourself bewildered and perplexed by this elusive gray area, I have devised a range of categories to help you have peace and clarity when thinking of your situationship:

1.  Boothangishkinda – someone who is very new, yet has you intrigued with attraction and interest. It is way too early to determine whether or not they are everything they portray themselves to be. You have your guard up, but you are very hopeful.

2.  Boothangish –  someone who has been around for a little while that you are interested in, but not quite sure they are everything you would want in a relationship. You are still getting to know them and there may be something about them that gives you some reservation. You talk to them often, but not daily.

3.  Boothang – this person makes you smile and you really like him/her. You talk to them frequently and hang out with them regularly. However, you are not committed and that is very clear. You feel drawn to them, but there are some unspoken boundaries that you know you cannot cross.   For the most part, you think this person could be a very good partner in the future, and you hope that things keep going well. However, you are still getting to know him/ her so you are not one hundred percent convinced that you want to commit yet, or that he/she wants to commit to you.

Boo –   You love you some him/her! You want to see this person as much as you can.  Your face lights up and you feel butterflies whenever you’re near each other. You are eager for the day that you will be able to say he/she is your significant other.   You know that the next step is exclusivity and you hope everything stays intact so you can make it to that point.

Hopefully, you will be able to use this as a guide to understand the status of any gray area situationship you may be involved in now or in the future and therefore, act accordingly.

There’s nothing worse than thinking you’re exclusive and finding out that you are simply a boothangishkinda.

Let’s keep it in perspective, and call it what it is, not what we wish it could be


. Shall we?

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