I’d much rather be someone’s preference than obligation.
That way, when he’s with me it’s because he wants to be, instead of because he is expected to be.
If he enjoys being with me so much that he decides he prefers me over others, he may prefer to have a committed relationship.
If that’s the case, the conversation will arise because he preferred to bring it up, not because he was expected to answer a question or was given a demanding timeframe or ultimatum.
I prefer to be hand-picked.
If you don’t prefer me, you don’t really want me.
You just think you do.